Monthly Archive: January 2019

High School Jitters

Brad, the “dad”

My daughter The Elf is a tough li’l girl. At fourteen-going-on-forty, she has, over the last year, become the exact opposite of the emotional, sullen stereotype (except for the language. What a mouth that girl has…). But I think her hard-won maturity is working against her at the moment, and I feel absolutely unable to help.

She starts high school in a few days. And I can tell: she’s absolutely terrified. She’s not sleeping. She’s not eating. And this is a girl who loves to eat and sleep. Without end and with much enthusiasm. She did emerge at around four in the morning to very quietly confess to me (as I recall) that she was very nervous about Opening Day, and nothing I said seemed to help at all.

It doesn’t matter that she’s going to the same school her older sister successfully completed. It doesn’t matter that she’s been on the campus half a dozen times already, or that she’s going to be carpooling with her two best friends. It’s new, it’s unknown, and it’s killing her.

I know — at least I hope — that two days after she gets there, she’ll be fine. But I want to be able to help her now, to do something other than mouth the standard (and, it seems to me, rather dismissive) clichés: “Oh, it’s just nerves,” “Oh, it’s not that bad,” and of course my classic all-purpose, “You know, on my first day of school…”

So “Mom”? “Daughter”? Any advice? I don’t want to dote, but I don’t want to abandon her either. How can I help her through this, ’cause somehow just being stoic isn’t cutting it.

Rach, the “teen”

The best thing you can do is distract her. If she spends all day sitting around thinking about how scary its gonna be, then it’s gonna be pretty scary. But if she spends all day thinking about something else, then it’ll be pretty hard for her to worry about the first day.

So, telling her about your first day isn’t such a terrible idea. Or you could just wait it out because in a few days she’ll be feeling happy and excited and like she knows everything about high school. And that will be awesome.

Mary, the “mom”

I have to admit that I started to think about how to answer “dad’s” query before I saw Rach’s response. My suggestions were going to be dramatically different than Rach’s. I was thinking along the lines of “sit down with her and have her really try to dissect what it is that she is so nervous about and then deal with that rationally.” But, when I saw Rach’s response, I thought “well, she is a heck of a lot closer to this than I am, maybe I am way off base here.” So, I asked my own kids at the dinner table tonight.

My thirteen-year-old, who is starting eighth grade was quick to point out that she is closer in age to the Elf than anyone else voicing an opinion. She agreed with Rach – distract her. Although, I think that in my daughter’s mind distraction equated to ‘take her shopping and buy her lots of new stuff’. My son, who is a junior in high school this year suggested that the Elf’s older sister might be a better person to talk with her. Although, he did add the caveat that his suggestion would only work if they get along with each other better than his sisters do.

Whatever you decide to say or do, I think the fact that she knows that you understand that she’s nervous and that you care is comforting. And, next week when she is too busy texting her new friends to answer your questions about how it’s going, you can rest easy.

Go Paperless

When the whole ‘net boom was growing, everyone thought we would be a paperless society in only a matter of years. The idea sounded feasible as numerous services went online offering secure options for managing accounts and delivering information. Years later we are using more paper than ever along with our massive consumption of information online.

So what happened? Why are we not sticking to electronic options exclusively instead of printing out physical copies of everything? I don’t fully know the answer, but I do know that most companies still rely on physical storage of information.

Perhaps it is the fact that hard drives fail, a painful experience most of us have had at one point or another. Digital data can be lost. Secure online accounts sound great until there is another big hacking breach publicized in the news. Email delivery of monthly statements is not always something you can rely on to avoid late payments on a credit card or loan payment. There are a number of insecurities we all harbor, and our protection is to stick to the old fashioned postal delivery of our reminders. The reality, granted in my opinion, is that we feed our lack of personal organization by sticking to getting things delivered by mail.

Nearly every financial institution offers options to go paperless with your statements and regular communication; some even offer incentives for you to do it because of the cost savings it provides them. If email delivery is an issue, consider changing your email to a good free service such as Gmail. Google can offer a high reception success on your email along with super spam filtering due to a sheer number of subscribers they monitor for problems. Plus, with Gmail, you get nearly 3GB of storage that is automatically backed up for you. You are not going to lose those important emails with solid service.

Concerned that you may not remember to pay those bills without a physical reminder? First off, consider checking your email at least once a day if you don’t already. It’s a good thing to stay in communication with people, plus with the regular habit, you can ensure you will see important missives quickly.

Second, consider paying bills right when they come in. I know, we all like to squeeze out every day of interest we can by holding our money into our account until the last possible moment. Come on, I have thought like that too, but the reality here is that we are just procrastinators that like to cover ourselves with believing we are sound financial thinkers. If you pay bills right off, you never have to remember the due date with growing anxiety of missing it. If your finances are tight this may be a difficult transition to make; but, once done, it is no different than your normal routine, just moved up in the month.

Finally, if you are really bad about remembering things – as I am – use electronic reminders. If you use a mobile phone use the built-in task list or calendar option to put in date/time reminders to do important tasks. If you are not that electronically savvy, carry a small datebook and get good and looking at it regularly to see what important things need to get done on any given day.

Really going paperless is not a matter of security, privacy or availability. Going paperless is a matter of breaking our current habits and establishing new, better ones.

What happened to growing old gracefully?

There is an epidemic out there of plastic surgeries. In one year the American Society of Plastic Surgeons (ASPS) reported that people had spent over 8.4 billion dollars on cosmetic surgeries. Enough to run many a country. This figure I’m sure included surgeries that were needed for disfigurements due to accidents, etc. BUT the most common procedure listed was Botox injections so my guess it wasn’t a huge percentage of surgeries being done to help the disfigured. Unless you think of crow’s feet as a disfigurement! Ok, the stats being said”¦now my take on all this”¦

What happened to growing old gracefully?

First, do some of these women and yes MOST plastic surgery is being done on women”¦ever LOOK at themselves in a mirror after? Unless their goal was to look like The Joker from Batman I would think they couldn’t possibly think their frozen face (thus the name PLASTIC surgery), oddly swollen lips and emotionless expression makes them look younger. I have seen some older actresses on TV who I honestly didn’t’ even know until they said their name”¦. Olivia Newton-John comes to mind. How sad they feel society has told them that looking one’s age (if over 25) is something to be ashamed of. That their beauty from within that they have acquired thru living a life filled with family, friends, sadness, joy, laughter, and tears has to be acid peeled, botoxed, stretched out, clipped off, plumped up or filled in. I can remember looking into my grandmother’s face as a young child and seeing her life etched into it”¦.she had the best sense of humor and each laugh showed, we lived at the beach during the summers sharing one bottle of Coppertone between us and all those summers were there on her face”¦her hands were weathered like driftwood that took a water journey unknown before landing on a beach to be found and collected by a child”¦her grey hair framed her face like clouds softening her shallow cheeks that still moved when she smiled. I looked into that face and saw a realness”¦a lifetime”¦my future. She had made a journey called life and wore it well.

What happened to growing old gracefully?

What do these fake plastic faces show the young children of today? That youth is all that matters”¦at any cost. Count me out”¦I like looking into the mirror and seeing my grandmother smiling back at me”¦.

Calling Homes With Kids at Late Hours

I have four kids, all 10 and under. My youngest is one year old, so that translates to an early bedtime for most of the household. Early bedtime is for a few reasons. kids need plenty of sleep. if you want to have a pleasant following day, you have to get your kids to bed at a reasonable hour so they get in the requisite number of hours, even after their hour plus of delays, whining and overall trying to get away with staying up. Also factor in the middle of the night wake ups that are typical with kids. Even when they are healthy, our kids seem to tag team and take turns waking up for inexplicable reasons and need a little comfort from their parents. Nightmares, not quite awake enough to find the bathroom, etc. You get the picture.

An early bed is also to allow parents at least some time without kids to either have a little quality time or get a few things done around the house that you just can’t do with kids.

Every set of parents has their own ideas on this though. Some parents like to let their kids stay up later so they will perhaps sleep more soundly through the night and sleep in mornings. That doesn’t work with our kids. Staying up late just means cranky kids. We recognize other practices of parents though and don’t let our early rising kids go bug other homes until late enough that everyone is up. Some weekends this is worse than waiting to open presents and Christmas for our kids, but they know the rules.

Why is it that other people cannot figure out that our kids are in bed and that calling at a late hour is going to mess up our nice, planned routine? Sometimes it is people without kids that I figure they don’t have a clue, but other times these are people with kids, young kids even that seem to have forgotten that when you dial a number it makes a particularly loud noise on the other end of the line. Are they really that clueless, or do they just not care?
Guess what? When you wake up a one-year-old after she has slept for an hour or so, she thinks what should have been a full night of sleep was really just a nap, and now I am ready to play for a few hours! More than once I have been tempted to take my now crying and awake child to their doorstep and invite myself in for the next few hours so the caller can enjoy my situation they have created.

There are some people we know that understand our schedule and don’t call after 8:30 or so unless it is an emergency of course. Also, I have done business at late hours with people and have arranged for late calls – with advanced notice I can turn the ringers down or have the conversation on a mobile phone that I can silence the ringer on. I really just view this as a common courtesy. We have actually had the “how late to call is ok” discussion with most of our closest friends, and we know how late we can call them and vice versa. There are others that I have yet to train.

I am pretty straightforward with those that are continual abusers or those that choose to call particularly late. On more than one occasion I have had someone call as late as 9:30 or 10 asking for my wife – and knowing the call isn’t that important – I have informed them that she has already retired for the evening, can this wait until the morning.

I have heard of many families that just turn their phone ringers off after their “acceptable” time, but there are a number of reasons why I don’t do that. First, I don’t think I should have to. People should have some common sense and respect for the time of others. Second, I have a mother with various medical conditions that I need to be available for emergency calls, which has happened on a number of occasions in the past. Third, did I mention I don’t think I should have to?

How about the wrong numbers in the wee hours of the night? I have had this happen countless times. Usually, it is some teenage or college kid dialing their significant other for a late night chat. Word to the wise, if you are going to make a call at that time of night, either use speed dial or take the time to dial the right number. Tip: turn on the light when you dial, makes it a lot easier.

There are a few select people I am thinking of that call us late with a regularity that just can’t seem to get the message. Of course, I haven’t been so direct as to ask them not to call late again, my wife pokes me and tells me not to be rude when she can see a small tirade coming. I just bite my tongue and let it go on.

I once heard of someone that worked a very early shift at work and would get very upset when others would call in the late evening after he had gone to bed. He figured out a simple way to curb this situation. He would let people leave a message and return the call before he would go to work…at 4 am. When people would get upset, he would simply remind them that they had called during their convenient time which was during his sleep, so he was doing the same. People wised up pretty fast and the situation was resolved.

I am sure I will just keep dealing with the situation as I have, racing for the phone when it rings at late hours rather than being blunt. Perhaps I can invite them to check out my blog and let them happen upon this post. I might actually enjoy seeing them the next time to see if they got the message!

Choosing the Best Carpet Cleaners and Carpet Steam Cleaners!

For homeowners, auto detailing professionals and auto dealers, investing in high-quality, trustworthy, and lengthy-lasting carpet cleaners for carpet cleaning as properly as upholstery cleaning is a priority. These men and women invest great money in looking for the finest carpet cleaners and carpet steam cleaners, and they need to not sacrifice top quality for cost.

Choosing the Best Carpet Cleaners and Carpet Steam Cleaners!

Auto detailing focuses on keeping auto interiors’ carpet and upholstery looking like new and refreshed the very best carpet cleaners, carpet steam cleaners, upholstery cleaners, and carpet and upholstery cleaning chemicals are critical to achieving outstanding cleaning outcomes. All sorts of companies, institutions, commercial and non-commercial facilities, etc. need the use of exceptional commercial carpet cleaners and carpet steam cleaners to make facilities appear clean and smell fresh. Dust mites, allergens, toxic chemicals and a lot more can wreak havoc on people with allergies, asthma, chemical sensitivities, COPD, compromised immune systems, cancer, and other ailments. The right mixture of carpet cleaners and carpet green cleaning chemicals are vital in the choice-producing process.

Expert carpet cleaning companies require leading top quality commercial carpet cleaners and carpet cleaning equipment. Green cleaning is the hot topic all through the world right now and they want to use green cleaning chemicals for the duration of commercial carpet cleaning is very essential. Clients and prospective customers care about indoor air top quality since of allergies and other health conditions, and carpet cleaning utilizing environmentally-safe, eco-friendly carpet green cleaning chemicals is certainly a bonus for any commercial carpet cleaning enterprise.

Choosing the Best Carpet Cleaners and Carpet Steam Cleaners!

Homeowners use home carpet cleaners, carpet steam cleaners, and commercial carpet cleaners for not only auto detailing to preserve their auto carpet and upholstery searching nice and clean, but also use carpet cleaning equipment to clean carpet and upholstery in their house. Making use of green cleaning chemicals when carpet cleaning is genuinely the finest, safest, and most powerful approach for homeowners and auto detailing businesses.

Auto detailing pros buy commercial carpet cleaning equipment and carpet steam cleaners to make cash their livelihood depends upon generating auto carpet and upholstery appear completely outstanding.

The better the carpet cleaning and upholstery cleaning job, the more most likely auto detailing organizations are to get repeat business and customer referrals, which assist their auto detailing company to thrive.

The carpet cleaning method often can be tough and even harmful if you decide on an improper carpet cleaning machine, carpet steam cleaner or harmful carpet cleaning chemicals. So be careful whilst selecting carpet cleaners.

You ought to follow directions, use green cleaning chemicals, and produce the optimal carpet cleaning and upholstery cleaning outcomes. Prevent carpet cleaning chemicals that do not contain environmentally-safe, eco-friendly ingredients rather than the toxic cleaning chemicals identified in other carpet cleaning solutions in the industry.

Choosing the Best Carpet Cleaners and Carpet Steam Cleaners!

Auto Detailing Organizations, Carpet Cleaners, Homeowners, Businesses, and Others – When you next contemplate acquiring a carpet cleaner, carpet steam cleaner, or carpet cleaning equipment in general, the following suggestions can support you determine upon the very best carpets cleaners:

  • Does the Carpet Cleaning equipment vendor supply a broad carpet cleaner line?
  • Do they appear skilled in the carpet cleaning field?
  • Are they nicely respected and recognized in the carpet cleaning business?
  • Have they established a huge clientele of satisfied carpet cleaner consumers?
  • Carpet cleaners and carpet steam cleaners that use dangerous cleaning chemicals may well be harmful and can quickly lead to disease and chemical sensitivities for not only your employees and families but also buyers if you’re in the carpet cleaning company.
  • Be especially careful with merchandise that use following carpet cleaning chemicals – Solvents: Butoxyethanol and other glycol ethers, Tetrachloroethylene, Perchloroethylene Acids and other corrosive chemicals: Hydroxyacetic acid, Hydrofluoric acid, Nitrilotriacetic acid, Sodium hydroxide, Sodium carbonate Mildewcides and Disinfectants: Tributyl tin, Formaldehyde, Phenol Other chemicals: Butane, propane and isobutanes (aerosol propellants), Dibutyl phthalate Nonylphenol ethoxylate (surfactant), Octylphenol ethoxylate (surfactant).
  • Don’t make the pricing as the only choice or factor when picking your carpet cleaner or carpet steam cleaner. Low carpet cleaner prices can occasionally come with limitations on services or functions you may possibly have expected from the carpet cleaners or carpet steam cleaners when you bought them. Also, check out for any hidden expenses as occasionally it is achievable that final carpet cleaner cost is different to what you have noticed initially or expected.
  • Do carpet cleaner reviews focus on the ability for carpet cleaner machines and carpet steam cleaners to clean dirt and other substances successfully.
  • Know upfront how frequently your carpet should be cleaned with your carpet cleaner or carpet steam cleaner.
  • By following the above carpet cleaner and carpet cleaning considerations, you ought to be able to cautiously determine upon or choose the finest carpet cleaner or carpet steam cleaner machines and equipment for effortless operation and genuinely powerful, outstanding cleaning results.

How To Choose Lipsense Shades For Your Skintone

While all LipSense brand lipsticks are great, there is so much more to consider when it comes to choosing your lipstick besides the manufacturer. With that said, one of the things that you also have to consider is your very own skin tone. Some shades of lipstick do not work out as well as that of others. Having said that, Lip Care Spot is a great site as it talks about these shades for your skin tone, among other things that should be considered. With that said, how exactly do you pick for your skin? While lipcarespot offers some information, below are some of the juicy tidbits you ought to know.

Undertones Matter

Indeed, your undertones are just as important in the choosing of lipstick as your main skin tone. Your undertone is either warm or cool. A simple vein check in your arms will help you to tell the difference. If it’s green, then you have a warm undertone. It you have a blue, then you have a cool undertone. Reds are best for those with a cool undertone in general.

Fair Skin

For fair skin, shades of orange, red, peach, coral, and pink are good for those with fair skin. Shades of a medium color are also great for your lips, though subtle colors can also work well with your skin.

Wheat-Colored Skin

Those with warm, wheat-colored skin will look great with just about any shade, whether it be light or dark. Nude isn’t a go-to, however.

Dark Complexion

If you have a dark complexion, then shades of Lipsense’s red, brown, and purple are great for your skin. This can make your range of wearable shades rather limited, but you can be creative with your lipstick. Indeed, there are many ways you are able to do so.

Here Are A Few Reasons Why You Need Makeup box

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